Our First Family Photo!
Generally about Mommy
I was woken by Jamie on all fours gripping the headboard!
Now that’s an opening line 😉 but unfortunately “that’s how we got into this predicament in the first place!
We spent all yesterday pissed off with latent labour since Sunday and all the mis information we were given about, definitely not in labour, only a matter of time though, you need to calm down and all that shit “Fuck Off” So last night we ended the day with dare I say it on here a whole bottle of wine each a fabulously spicy tea and 3 helium filled balloons, there’s just something so funny about that squeaky voice you get… So we went to bed relaxed and happy
05:16 Woken by Jamie in labour maybe?
05:55 Waters broke possibly?
06:00 Hot bath definately!
06:13 Rings mommy!
06:55 Off to hospital
We get to the hospital and were put in the birthing pool room (the last room available on a very busy morning) this made Jamie sooo happy because it was her plan for a water birth but the first thing we had to tell them did not bode well for that to happen, green discharge!
They see that immediately as a distressed baby and insist on monitoring it all the time so we had to accept straight away that the pool was a no go and were moved to room 7 (now etched on me mind) where we set up camp for the duration.
Jamie settled into a good routine of contraction-breath-rest using gas and air but it was apparent to me that this was not going to be easy for her and Jamie realised this too!
IF MY TIMINGS ARE OFF HERE IT IS BECAUSE I WAS CONCENTRATING ON OTHER THINGS
Jamie asked for an epidural around noon when she had been in a lot of discomfort for 8 hours (labour began at 4am, apparently?) our plan was for me to whole heartedly discourage her from this as her birthing partner as this was probably her being weak but, I had witnessed upto this point THEE strongest woman I will ever know dilate to 8cm on her own using only gas and air and she was knackered and in pain (lower back, to be specific) caused by the baby being back to back which is the hardest to deliver! So we (Jamie) decided to have the epidural.
The woman I love had done nothing but labour upto this point and even before the epidural kicked in a smile came onto her face a realisation that what she’d done to this point on gas and air and excruciating agony would soon be over… All of a sudden Jamie was sat there in bed eating a cereal bar laughing and joking and pointing out that the last contraction was massive while still chewing on the cereal bar. Labour had become bareable!
The next 7+ hours her dialation progressed as well as the labour to the point where we could push OMG this was it… this is what you see on the telly SCREAM THE FUCKING PLACE DOWN full on we are about to become parents!
19:30 Jamie was told to PUSH! 3 x per contraction then rest!
She did this relentlessly and better than anybody could have asked of her, she was fantastic!
A back to back delivery is apparently the worst\hardest delivery but Jamie gave it everything she had and then gave the same again for an hour and a half and was still sat there preparing to go again when they (NOT HER!!!) decided enough was enough they needed to try forceps and then C Section after that!
She was prepped for both and taken down to Theatre where they tried to deliver vaginally using forceps and Jamie again PUSHED until they THEY stopped her and moved straight to C Section!
REAGAN GRACE FORSTER was born at 22:07
My Jamie will forever be my hero for what she did today I love her but no longer with all my heart (I am crying as I write this) because a little girl has stolen some of it away….
I LOVE YOU BOTH JAMIE & REAGAN, FOREVER!
Not going to mention today, I will start when I got home from work and found Jamie asleep on the sofa and tried to creep past her but she stirred when I kissed her arm she smiled a true “I am really glad your here” kind of smile. She makes me feel so good without even trying, and I don’t know what I did in my life to deserve half of how she makes me feel?
She had a real moment of tears missing the fact that her friends were not here to share all this with her and that really upset her and also me, because its the one thing I can’t make right…I know some of you read this and if I can tell you that the tears I saw tonight were soo heart felt as she felt so alone even though I was sat right next to her! She really misses you more than you will ever know.
So we talked about what had gone on and sorted out in our heads what WE want to do and then decided to walk into town. Jamie was tired but we need to keep active and not to resort to draconian measures like lying down and accepting its how its got to be? Jamie is not like that but her will was ripped from her but it was back now and a few hugs later we were by the canal chatting with not a care in the world (almost?)
The plan we (when I say we I actually mean Jamie!) formulated was Crack open a bottle of wine and get relaxed on the patio I made a chicken cajun stir fry on a bed of coriander rice followed by strawberry cheesecake!
I am sat here now with THE most relaxed pregnant woman in England boncing on a ball laughing and chatting to her bezzie on the phone…
Oh, and I had wine too YAY!
Jamie summing up her feelings, in one picture!
…and relaxes in the garden talking to “mom”!
Hummm reading back yesterdays blog tells me to probably refrain from blogging whilst pissed lol
Labour pains all day walked in the morning and this afternoon but not amounting to anything which is annoying. Began to spot late on today so we decided to go get checked out at the hospital where we were told it is early latent labour baby’s fine water still intact and baby has back to Jamie’s back so we were given exercises to do to turn her but we were sent home to wait for progression
So a short blog today as I’m off to bed
She yogi’ed we walked we had visitors…
Due date and Jamie’s will has all but disappeared, although what I will say is: she is THE bestest strongest mostest positive woman I have ever known and she rocks my world….why doesn’t our child want to meet her ? She is discharching plug like there’s no tomorrow but….
I don’t want to hug a plug?
OK no baby but when we walk all around Middlewich then stop at the Big Lock to replenish fluids I end up drunk…We text John (without doubt me bezzi) and he turned up to while away a….well a while?
If me wife leaves a phone on the table when I’ve had a…..and I walk all the way back to the pub and stand in the middle of that pub and call her phone and when a bloke answers it I take it from him (it was the landlord) then dash to catch me wife up but get talkin’ to a bloke Jamie just talked to and both of us end up at home in the sun….
We were planning tea when Karl and Karen turn up and I don’t mind admitting I was tipped up when they arrived….but I felt great! We had chicken and chips for tea and bread and butter fernominizzle
maybe baby tomorrow?
It’s St George’s day today, I love the 23rd April and look forward to it, I always always celebrate it by at the very least wearing an England football shirt to provoke comment by people who question why I’m wearing it or realise why and comment. I could go into a speech here about how we’re not allowed to be English for fear of being called racist yet we have to pander to all other cultures and country saint day celebrations so they can enjoy themselves here….but I won’t!
Jamie’s waking thought was pedicure…? Her reasoning, there will be lots of people getting pretty close to her feet over the next few days and she wants them to look good she also had her eyebrows waxed to (not sure of her reasoning there though?)
Went to see the midwife at 13:15 and Jamie mentioned the pains she’s been having and she told her it could easily turn in to labour so best have a high carb dinner because you need to take on as much energy as possible while you can. Jamie took this as a direct instruction to have a chippy dinner so we went straight to the chippy for fish’n’chips I’m not exactly sure that was the actual message but the dinner was bloody great!
I am sat here watching The Ricky Gervais Show an animated adaptation of his podcasts which if you’ve never heard them you MUST seek them out and listen “they’re hilarious!” Jamie is asleep in the chair next to me no pains no baby just sleeping so she doesn’t go to bed too early and end up waking up at 4am not able to sleep, there must be some logic there that I missed but…?
So no St George birth, maybe we will be one of the 10% who actually give birth on their due date who knows? Please don’t go over dudette!
It seems like our life is on hold and we can’t and daren’t do anything we just do our best to carry on as normal knowing that at any moment our life is going to change forever! Wake, walk, eat, work, walk, eat, walk, work, walk, walk, eat, watch tv and bed is about what my day entails at the moment so I asked Jamie to contribute today:
Alan asked me to write down just how I feel right now at 39w & 4d pregnant so here goes, the aches and pains that come with being pregnant with a full size human baby are getting really tiring. My belly feels huge and tight and I’m loosing interest in everything but the thought of birth. Don’t want to eat much or move too much, definately do not want to leave the house. I feel like I just want to stay in my little nest and wait for her to come out. I love feeling her move now they feel so strong! One little baby movement and my entire belly shifts! Like she is moving my organs around:) One of the weirdest things is hearing my belly rumble or the noises that normally come from your intestines are now coming from some very strange places….like really high up on my side! And everything is so squashed all the noises are very very loud now! Mostly I just wonder what she is like, what she will look like, and smell like, and sound like! I still can’t quite get my head around the fact that she is a little baby I guess I will get it when I see her. All the pressure I feel today in my pelvis is so so strong that I reckon it won’t be long till we meet our little miracle. Cramps are coming, pressure is there, hopefully she is ready to come out and meet us too!
All I know is that the minute our eyes lock all the discomforts of pregnancy will fade into distant memories……like forgetting a dream when you wake up. We are both truly excited and I absolutely cannot wait to bring Reagan home and sit down with her and Alan and just get to know each other as a family and to see my wonderful husband and best friend become a father……..it’s going to be amazing!
Thanks dude I have to say I try to write about how you feel but that about sums it, and the thoughts at the end are always the sort I have and never about sleepless nights and being knee deep in disposables its always sunny days baby bonnets and pims on the lawn…we’ll see lol!
I have decided to blog my life, everyday for the next year? It may not interest most people but I would to think that in the next few days or weeks I will become a father and that this blog will also be a diary of our first year as parents and maybe one day she will be able to read this and see what it was like for us and her.
Ok in that first paragraph there is a lot of information I will elaberate on over the next few days, but for now I will give you a brief little prologue to set the seen.
My name is Alan and I am 39years old and will be for the next 12 days I am married to Jamie and we are expecting our first child anytime now. We live in England and have done for over a year now, I am from here Jamie is American we love our life together.
This is us!
Blogging is something I enjoy doing and thought that I should do this now as there are lots of things happening in our life right now that I want to document and it will also be a point of reference for our freinds and family over in the states who I will be sending an invite to read this when I finish the first page. I hope to add a photo everyday too to show in someway what we were up to, did or saw. I’m sure it will evolve as time goes by and hopefully will be worth reading so keep having a look.
More later but for now this is a start!