Spoke to Karl tonight who had just spent an hour and a half with me mum telling her how he felt and basically clearing the air as if it needed clearing?

From my conversation with him he confirmed that as we all suspected Abbie has lived there rent and bill free since moving in years ago and me mum tolerates it cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing her clothes, the list goes on….

Its not right we all know that but Abbie seems to have no conscience, happy to freeload her way through her life, which allows her to earn money tax free (probably?) without any financial burden (probably?) drive a nice car paid for by her mum (probably?) and go on holiday for 2 weeks to Egypt with all the money she’s saved from not having to pay her way like the rest of us (probably?)

Her mum seems to love conflict and has done for years falling out with anyone and everyone, so this just gives her a reason to fall out with someone else (Karl) and wallowing the thoughts that the whole world is against her….? What I do not understand is the reason, if you take away the mother daughter thing she’s been through hell trying to make Abbie happy only to be treated like shit over and over again, if Abbie does not get her own way? Some people would rather be unhappy than confront the reason of their unhappiness, falling into the trap of believing its everyone else’s fault but their own!

Mum will never rock the boat so I am not sure what any of this has achieved other than Karl, because he was brave enough to say out loud what I and many others think, becoming the villain in Abbie and apparently Helen’s eyes.

Without either empathy or sympathy Abbie will carry on as normal (probably?) hoping Helen fights her battle as she has done before, trying to make a perfect life for someone who most of the time can’t be in the same room as her without being horrible and nasty towards her?

Helen won’t speak to Karl for months (probably?) happy that in her head she’s the victim and that will make her loved by her daughter but won’t (probably?) and life will be like that for her and Abbie because that’s how they like it and sadly nothing will change until it does…

Of course it did, 32? all week and dry but it rained when I wanted to it to be dry, not hot dry

After a minor blip, she got on her new scooter and nothing… I knew what she was going to say the red handle at the back that dis-engages the motor allowing her to push it out of the garage. Not sure why she wanted to but she pushed it out of the garage and then didn’t realise she needed to re-engage the motor.

Once that was sorted me mum was off and she loved it, went round Tesco and learned the best route was not on the tree side of Cross Lane and when I asked her bike has now been relegated to the shed because this is now her new mode of transport.

I think I have done a good thing!

My brother has an awful lot of alone time nowadays since Saturday 5th July 2025 when he lost Karen soulmate the person who he loved dearly and I know from personal experience how big that void will feel. Although its been almost a year those nights can feel long and lonely and anything that he feels passionate about can fester in his head without anyone to sound off to or filter reactions, so when I sent him the video of me giving mum her new scooter I mentioned that it was difficult for her to get past Abbie’s new fellas car that is always parked, it irked him.

He apparently sent her a message asking her to move the car so mum can have the freedom to use her new scooter, which is fair enough.

The problem came when she didn’t respond to him and as I mentioned those thoughts fester and it would have frustrated him being ignored so wrote another message and sent it to Abbie probably raging inside?

Abbie hope you got my message. Please understand my main concern and number one priority is nannie.  It is her house and she allows you to stay there not anyone else. I only have mums best interests in mind and ensure she is happy and not worrying about. It’s nannie that indicated to Alan that she would like a scooter so he has sorted it out. This is my personal opinion Abbie but you are a grown woman and if you wish to continue your relationship with Cal you need to seriously think about finding your own place. Do you not think that time has come? It’s mums/nannies house not yours to do as you wish. It’s time to move on Abbie.  I hope I make myself clear. Please can you at least respond to the move the car request. Like I say my best interests are with my mum who I love dearly. Your life will go on and I want you to be happy but please it needs to be somewhere else.

The sentiment is exactly what I think and believe a lot of others think too, but up to now no-one has voiced, well its has been now.

Would I have sent it as he wrote it, no I would have showed to Jamie who would have rewrote it and softened it but he does not have that option so sent it unfiltered.

It is safe to say this has now become a war, not just with Abbie but, in this case, with her mum too, who has a propensity to feel victimised at the best of times?

I do understand why Helen feels the need to defend her daughter. I’m sure Jamie would do exactly the same. However, there is a long and complicated backstory that is far too messy to unravel here, and one that suggests Helen should, by now, be able to see his point of view as well.

Instead, this has become an opportunity for Helen to bond with her daughter, even if that bond is being reinforced through a shared conflict with someone who would do anything for her. It gives Helen the chance to demonstrate the mother daughter solidarity she so clearly craves, despite openly admitting that she is often treated badly if not disgracefully by the daughter she is defending.

I have kept neutral although reassuring Karl that he has not said anything that isn’t true and that he definitely needs to make it right with mum no matter what because at the end of the day this all comes from the fact that he loves her and that is why he sent it!

We’re never ready for days like this yet wait all year for one, but they only seem to come when I’m working?

I saw 32? on my car stereo tonight and boy did it feel like that all day sat in front of my PC.  The best bit is its supposed to be getting hotter as the week progresses

Hottest day until tomorrow…